Friday, April 29, 2011

Food For Thought (16 OR OLDER)

Why is it that a girl can sleep around as much as she wants, as long as she uses birth control, and it is thought of as "freedom" and "liberation,"
but if a girl gets pregnant while unmarried -- regardless of how many or how few times she has had sex -- she is shunned and thought of as a "slut?"

Think about it.


  1. I don't think it's the actual sleeping around that people refer to as "liberation". It's the fact that a girl has that choice. Whether or not she makes that choice is not relevant to the value of being able to choose. Sadly, in our culture, women do still suffer a rather sharp social backlash for making the choice to be sexually liberal at a younger age (when I say younger age, I wouldn't suggest it before sixteen).

  2. Yes, that is what was implied. Sorry, I guess it wasn't clear. :-/

    I believe, on a different note, that's where the trouble starts. There is an idea that being free to "be sexually liberal" does in fact give one freedom. This is really one of the most harmful lies or beliefs which a lot of young people (and older people too, I guess) are led to believe. It really doesn't matter what your religion, creed, etc. Sleeping around is emotionally, psychologically, and physically dangerous.
    There is no such thing as "safe" sex. There is no birth control which is 100% effective, and there is nothing out there which prevents more than 80% of STDS. And that is just the tip of the iceberg.

    But as another food for thought munchie, you mention that you wouldn't suggest sexual liberation before age sixteen. Why? What is there to determine when someone is "ready" for sex? And what does being "ready for sex" even mean or imply? It goes without saying, of course, that one has to reach puberty. But who is to decided when one is "sexually mature." It would seem to me that these are truly meaningless or absurd phrases thrown around by confused individuals or companies intent on making billions of dollars a year from abortions, condoms, and birth control.

  3. Sorry, that was most definitely a rant. I forgot (I am a blabbermouth) to address what you said about the choice.
    You are absolutely right. There is no choice without being ABLE to choose. But, of course, there is always a right choice and a wrong choice.
    Also, I would tend to disagree with your comment that "women do still suffer a rather sharp social backlash for making the choice to be sexually liberal at a younger age." If you look around at our society (magazines, TV, books, even medical facilities), you will see there is a lot of ENCOURAGEMENT for young women to be sexually active. I believe that the reason young pregnant women or "teen moms" are looked at with disgust is for one (or multiple) of the following reasons:
    1: They are going against the grain by keeping their child and not choosing abortion so as to "head on with their own lives."
    2: They are witnesses to consequences. People don't like to be reminded that actions have consequences. They want to have sex with whoever they want, whenever they want, and when they are slapped in the face by the reality that sex naturally leads to children, it is disconcerting and uncomfortable.
    3. People have a tendency to think that girls who "slip up" and get pregnant, only did so because of their MULTIPLE sexual partners. Obviously this is absurd, because a girl could get pregnant the very FIRST TIME she has sex. I hear this argument a lot and it bothers me simply because it is so silly.